The "Cat" is out of the bag, so to speak

Tonight was the night. I had dinner with Julie, Bret, the girls and Charles. It was decided that Bob would not go, so I could "announce" our impending wedding. It was certainly interesting, to say the least. No one had any idea, and Charles has been very quiet ever since. I hated to spring it on them, but I couldn't wait any longer. In fact, to me there had been too much time between when we made the decision and letting them know. Charles wished me well and said, "Whatever makes you happy."

I love all my sons very much. I care what they think. I know they only want the very best for me. And yet, why do I feel like I've done something they disapprove of? I just want everyone to be okay with my choice. And, my question is this - Are they upset because of me liking someone? Are they upset because of Bob? Or, are they upset because they didn't know?

I like structure in my life, as you know. I have schedules! I have order! I have lists! So what is the problem? I'm not really sure. I know I am very tired, but that can be expected with the new job and the added responsibilities of getting a wedding ready. What wasn't expected was having to justify why I want to marry and who I want to marry.

Maybe I didn't explain it carefully enough or blurted it out too quickly without any prep for the group. One of the things I learned in therapy is there are always choices; not necessarily ones we like, but there are choices! The bottom line is - now everyone knows. So, what is the next step? Or, where do I go from here? I just want everyone to "play nice." Kindergarten was so much easier.