Les Parrott's book, "THE CONTROL FREAK", reveals some unique insight into the person who wants to change things. When I was a teacher, back in the ice age, these were great attributes; not so good evidently in personal life, especially right now.
Bob says I am spoiled. That is probably true. Tom pretty much let me handle everything that had to do with home and family. My classroom was basically under my control. As a Team Leader and Facilitator, I had to be in charge of how things went in either situation. I was caregiver for both my parents for many years. When I first started working for the theme park, I was promoted several times and eventually to Asst Manager (Coordinator) and first place for seniority in relation to experience time. Again. I was in charge. So, yes. I guess I've had to be "in charge" most of my life.
Being in charge is not something I sought, but seemed to be what I was supposed to do. Now I have to "undo" or relearn what I've done all my life. Change is not easy or something I especially enjoy, but the book gives two hints as to how to start.
First, COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS EVERY DAY. Not especially overwhelming, but a good reminder. Dr Parrott says to actually write down your daily blessings each and every day to "SEE" what God has given us. Secondly, remember the GRACE God has given to us-not just remember it, but pass it on to every person in which I come in contact. Doesn't sound too hard, right? (As Julia Roberts once said in a movie, "We'll See.") {Wiener should be glad I'm practicing Grace}
I can hardly wait to see the experiences today.
First.
1. Family
2. A place to live
3. Friends
. . .
Monday, October 26, 2009
Monday, October 19, 2009
REVELATIONS
Seeing yourself as others see you can be interesting, to say the least. I have collected, over the years, an eclectic group of friends and acquaintances. I am an upfront, honest, detail person so it's not surprising when the people who are closest to me "TELL ME LIKE IT IS" even when I don't really want to hear it.
Spending time this past week with Linda, a friend I hadn't seen in a while, certainly illuminated a few of my "faults" that must be very evident. I was told I was always complaining and had control issues. I guess if enough people tell you about a character flaw, it must be true. I was also told I needed to be "kinder" to my husband. Whew. It was certainly a week-end.
I can't say I like criticism, but I am "reflective" at times. I think it helps to know how others perceive you. NOW. What do I do about it?
Spending time this past week with Linda, a friend I hadn't seen in a while, certainly illuminated a few of my "faults" that must be very evident. I was told I was always complaining and had control issues. I guess if enough people tell you about a character flaw, it must be true. I was also told I needed to be "kinder" to my husband. Whew. It was certainly a week-end.
I can't say I like criticism, but I am "reflective" at times. I think it helps to know how others perceive you. NOW. What do I do about it?
Friday, October 09, 2009
Whatever
In visiting my primary-care doctor yesterday, she seemed very happy with "whatever" I'm doing. She is of the opinion that if it makes me feel better-it is okay, and that works for me. My blood work that I had done for her on Monday, was much better than it had been in the last few samples. Cholesterol and triglycerides were both lower than previous results. Which is good.
I like the positive results from all the vitamins and minerals I'm taking. It just seems excessive when I see them all lined up on the counter. I even told her about the acupuncture. She seemed okay with that too. I don't have to go back for four months. That is the longest I have had between visits.
Our trip to GA is getting closer. I'm excited. It's been a while since I've had been on a road trip with "the girls." It's kind of like "Golden Girls" meet Willie Nelson. Emily is arriving in Florida earlier than expected. She had a relative in John's Pass that died this week. and is coming for that service and to help the relatives. Her calling is certainly one of service, especially in instances like that one. She is knowledgeable and compassionate. For anyone who has been through a time like this, a person with all her abilities is definitely needed. We will connect sometime after Sunday or Monday depending on how long she needs to stay there.
Tomorrow night "The family" is supposed to go to "Mickey's Not So Scary" Halloween Party. I took off yesterday because of basically not wanting to work, but ended up needing to be off because of some stomach problems. I'm not completely "healed" or in remission but definitely on my way. I don't know whether I will take off and go to the party, or try to work and leave early. Only time will tell.
It is getting late and I need to go back to bed so that I can get up to take Wiener out. She hasn't showed up yet, but I'm sure she is getting a little chilly by herself and will come hunting me. Bob has today off and is going "car hunting." He has caught the fever from me. He has not driven my car, but he is extremely attached to all the "goodies" that are on it. Whatever he does, will be exactly right for him. He is careful with his money and doesn't spend money he doesn't have. I would like to give him the car for Christmas. Unless God decides to "gift" me with a little extra, it won't happen any time soon. Who knows? God has done stranger things than that, especially for me.
I like the positive results from all the vitamins and minerals I'm taking. It just seems excessive when I see them all lined up on the counter. I even told her about the acupuncture. She seemed okay with that too. I don't have to go back for four months. That is the longest I have had between visits.
Our trip to GA is getting closer. I'm excited. It's been a while since I've had been on a road trip with "the girls." It's kind of like "Golden Girls" meet Willie Nelson. Emily is arriving in Florida earlier than expected. She had a relative in John's Pass that died this week. and is coming for that service and to help the relatives. Her calling is certainly one of service, especially in instances like that one. She is knowledgeable and compassionate. For anyone who has been through a time like this, a person with all her abilities is definitely needed. We will connect sometime after Sunday or Monday depending on how long she needs to stay there.
Tomorrow night "The family" is supposed to go to "Mickey's Not So Scary" Halloween Party. I took off yesterday because of basically not wanting to work, but ended up needing to be off because of some stomach problems. I'm not completely "healed" or in remission but definitely on my way. I don't know whether I will take off and go to the party, or try to work and leave early. Only time will tell.
It is getting late and I need to go back to bed so that I can get up to take Wiener out. She hasn't showed up yet, but I'm sure she is getting a little chilly by herself and will come hunting me. Bob has today off and is going "car hunting." He has caught the fever from me. He has not driven my car, but he is extremely attached to all the "goodies" that are on it. Whatever he does, will be exactly right for him. He is careful with his money and doesn't spend money he doesn't have. I would like to give him the car for Christmas. Unless God decides to "gift" me with a little extra, it won't happen any time soon. Who knows? God has done stranger things than that, especially for me.
Wednesday, October 07, 2009
TOTALLY
Here I am again. It's 5 AM and I'm not sleeping. So many things to "MULL" over and so little time during the day. I have an acupuncture appt at 8:30, going to Pasco to pick up a cushion for my denim chair, eat lunch somewhere over there, and hurry back for choir practice at 5:30.
My days are filled with "DOING"-Wiener, grocery shopping, work, and anything else that needs to be done for that day. Each and every day comes and goes and my life is happening. . .What else, I ask God and the voice is silent for now. Sometimes I feel I should be somewhere else, doing something else, but I don't know what. When it's time He will let me know. My impatience sometimes gets in the way and yet-the adventures come and go.
I'm getting ready to go to a conference in GA. I'm reallllllly looking forward to that. Being too close to my life, I some times can't see the forest for the trees, as Tom would say, and with the daily scenarios unfolding I seem to be "floating" through life. I hate that feeling. I call it my "WAITING" periods. That is where I just have to wait until God gets ready to open the doors for my new adventure.
As anyone knows, I don't like to wait and as my relative I can't mention says, "I have control issues." Today is another day to wait, I think. And, as I wait, we'll see what unfolds. It's always" interesting, if not enjoyable."
Wiener is up again. Need to go.
My days are filled with "DOING"-Wiener, grocery shopping, work, and anything else that needs to be done for that day. Each and every day comes and goes and my life is happening. . .What else, I ask God and the voice is silent for now. Sometimes I feel I should be somewhere else, doing something else, but I don't know what. When it's time He will let me know. My impatience sometimes gets in the way and yet-the adventures come and go.
I'm getting ready to go to a conference in GA. I'm reallllllly looking forward to that. Being too close to my life, I some times can't see the forest for the trees, as Tom would say, and with the daily scenarios unfolding I seem to be "floating" through life. I hate that feeling. I call it my "WAITING" periods. That is where I just have to wait until God gets ready to open the doors for my new adventure.
As anyone knows, I don't like to wait and as my relative I can't mention says, "I have control issues." Today is another day to wait, I think. And, as I wait, we'll see what unfolds. It's always" interesting, if not enjoyable."
Wiener is up again. Need to go.
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