You just don't get it, do you?

Linner (combo of lunch and dinner) today with an old friend reminded me once again of what happens to each of us when we have decisions to make.

Her son-in-law decided about 5 weeks ago that he "needed to find himself." He doesn't think he wants to be married right now and he got married too young.  AND, he didn't know what was involved in being married. (quote/unquote)

That is all well and good, but what about their 4-year old daughter?  How do you explain these things to her when they don't even make sense to adults? So, my friend's daughter packed up and moved in with Mom and Dad.  What else could she do?

Mom and Dad  have a big 4-bedroom, 3-bath house w/pool.  There is a cleaning lady who not only cleans but also washes and irons the clothes; Mom cooks all the meals, and Mom and Dad do the dishes. Even as good as all that sounds, it doesn't make up for the fact that there is no husband for the wife; no father for the daughter; and, no one to live in that little house that they own.

The one thing that confuses me is that he doesn't understand why no one wants to include him in the "trips" to the beach, the 4th of July celebration, or the vacation plans for next month. He chose to leave the family and he doesn't understand why he's being left out of all the activities.  In other words, "He just doesn't get it."

Is there someone else in the picture?  I wouldn't be surprised.  That is usually the case when people want to "find" themselves.  Even if that is true, the bottom line still remains - You can't make someone else do what you want them to do; even if it is the best thing for them.  If that were possible, I would have made my husband take better care of himself so he wouldn't have died.